Bismillahirrahmanirrahim, In the name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful
Quick question, do you have a favourite quote? Or a life principles, or a philosophy you live by?
The way Timon & Pumba hold on to " Hakuna Ma Ta Ta ", in ways that Rancho a.k.a P. Wangdu hangs on to " All is well " ?
What about the verses from the Quran? Our love letters from The Creator Himself to his creations. Do you have any favourite ayah from The Book ?
I have one form An- Nisa' ( Women ), verse 34 ;
" Laki-laki (suami) itu pelindung bagi perempuan (isteri) kerana Allah telah melebihkan sebagian mereka (laki--laki) atas sebagian yang lain (perempuan), dan karena mereka (lelaki) telah memberikan nafkah dan hartanya. Maka perempuan-perempuan yang saleh, adalah mereka yang taat (kepada Allah) dan menjaga diri ketika (suaminya) tidak ada, karena Allah telah menjaga (mereka).
Perempuan-perempuan yang kamu khawatirkan akan nusyuz, hendaklah kamu;
- beri nasihat kepada mereka,
- tinggalkanlah mereka di tempat tidur,
- dan (kalau perlu) pukullah mereka.
Tetapi jika mereka menaatimu, maka
JANGANLAH KAMU MENCARI-CARI ALASAN UNTUK MENYUSAHKANNYA.
SUNGGUH, ALLAH MAHA TINGGI, MAHA BESAR. "
"Men are (meant to be righteous and kind) guardians of women because God has favored some more than others and because they (i.e. men) spend out of their wealth. (In their turn) righteous women are (meant to be) devoted and to guard what God has (willed to be) guarded even though out of sight (of the husband).
As for those (women) on whose part you fear ill-will and nasty conduct,
admonish them (first),
(next) leave them alone in beds
(and last) beat or separate them (from you).
But if they obey you,
then seek nothing against them.
Behold, God is most High and Great.
- Translation by Dr. Ahmad Shafaat
Isn't it obvious how much He loves us (women). ;-), and men, are you not scared off His threat reminding you, no matter how strong, how 'awesome', how superior you may think of yourself over others, verily HE, is Most High, Most Great. In short - HE WOULD ALWAYS BE STRONGER, AWESOME-ER and definitely THE GREATEST.
I like the fact that HE has pass the reponsibility to look after women, to guard them to men. But should a man fail to do so there has always been Al- Muhaimin. THE Protector of All Protectors.
That is how beautiful this deen is, how Islam protects the women and respects men. Even in obeying the parents our mother comes before our father.
A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).
Even after marriage our mother-in-laws have the same right on us, just as our mother.
Kewajipan anak lelaki, pertama kepada Allah, kedua rasul, ketiga emak dan emak mentua, keem pat bapa dan bapa mentua dan kelima baru isteri. Isteri kena faham, kalau dia sayang dan melebihkan ibu bapa, itu memang wajar.
"Sebaliknya anak perempuan, yang pertama Allah, kedua rasul dan ketiga suami... Jalan pintas ke syurga bagi anak-anak selain Allah adalah emak dan ayahnya.
See how special women are in Islam. And how Just He is that in exchange, after marriage, for woman, her spouse comes before her parents, but only because God has entrusted the responsibility on men to regard the in laws just as his own family. God is too Awesome for words.. He's got our back.
But again, if your wife has been good to you, helping you, being your other half, completing you..
It is generally known that whatever you give a woman, she will make it better;
Give her a house, she'll give you a home.
Give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.
Give her a smile, she'll give you her heart.
So, if you you fail to love women in ways He commands you to and how The Prophet teaches us to (and vice versa of course),
Then be sure, The Almighty will judge you Justly. As what we deserve, for He is The All-Seeing, All Knowing.
A woman came out of a mans rib.
Not from his feet to be walked on,
not from his head to be superior over,
but from his side to be his equal.
Under the arm to be protected,
and next to the heart to be loved..
Wallahu'alam.
-dedicated to all women, daughter,mothers and wives.
