What do you think of this phrase:
[How may we help others if we can't help ourselves]
This particular phrase has been circulating my mind since earlier this evening.
Result:Its 4.24 a.m and I'm still up.
I talked to a friend of mine.and this was how the conversation goes..
Ilani Muis: what do you think of this phrase
Ilani Muis: [if we can't ourselves,how may we help others]
itik berenang: ha?
itik berenang: random nye
Ilani Muis: I;d just like to know
Ilani Muis: your views
Ilani Muis: youre a sensible person
itik berenang: haha...klaka la
itik berenang: i drp dulu
itik berenang: slalu terfikir about this phrase
itik berenang: org kan slalu cakap..u have to make sure that u're good enough before u can help other
itik berenang: or tegur others
itik berenang: or anything along that line
itik berenang: i mcm agree to a certain extent la
itik berenang: ish i tatau nak jawap camane
itik berenang: u nak i ckp dari context ape..ayah ajar anak? a muslim to another muslim?
Ilani Muis: any context
Ilani Muis: it depends on how you see it
itik berenang: ha ok..i bagi dari religious context la kan contohynye..
itik berenang: *contohnye
itik berenang: haha
itik berenang: ha anyway
itik berenang: contohnye..u nak help org supaye be a better person..so u nak tegur kalau org tu buat silap
itik berenang: but then if u berpegang on that phrase kan
itik berenang: it's a bit impossible la
itik berenang: because..
itik berenang: like the phrase said...'if we cant ourselves, how may we help other'
itik berenang: then maknenye lebih kurang mcm kalaw u nak tegur org..u kene la perfect dulu
itik berenang: if u can make urself a perfect person
itik berenang: than u barulah boleh help people
itik berenang: tapi kan impossible
itik berenang: u nak tunggu diri u perfect
itik berenang: smpai bile pon takboleh
itik berenang: ha camtu la contohnye
itik berenang: but then again i agree to a certain extent...contoh yang typical yang i boleh bagi..
itik berenang: ayah smoke, but suruh anak jangan smoke
itik berenang: if u cant stop urself, how r u gonna teach ur son not to do it kan
itik berenang: huhu
itik berenang: eh betol ke i ckp ni
itik berenang: kang membebel panjang2
itik berenang: tak jawap soalan pn
Ilani Muis: yeah
Ilani Muis: sensible
Ilani Muis: huhu
Ilani Muis: it really is complicated kan
Ilani Muis: even if u terbalekkan the phrase
Ilani Muis: like
Ilani Muis: [how may we help others,if we cant help ourselves]
Ilani Muis: cm bole interpret laen
Ilani Muis: i find it to be rather
Ilani Muis: negative
itik berenang: yeah...i slalu rase phrase mcm ni sgt negative
itik berenang: sangat tak membantu org untuk berkembang
itik berenang: sebab for me..in the process of u helping other people pn..u will learn so many things
itik berenang: so mcm u're helping urself la jugak
itik berenang: so if u cannot help other ppl sebab u dnt have what it takes...i rase takde sesiapa pn dlm dunia ni will help anyone
itik berenang: masing2 sibuk nak jadi perfect before they can help others
Ilani Muis: n nobody will ever be..cuz nobody is perfect..x matter how,x matter what
Ilani Muis: so
Ilani Muis: conclsion
Ilani Muis: just try to be strong
Ilani Muis: n be ready to accept ur weakness,but do try to be better nx tym?
itik berenang: a'a
itik berenang: exactly
itik berenang: i rase...org yang kluwakan phrase mcm ni..adelah org yang tanak terima help from other people
itik berenang: sebab terlampao ego..org melayu kan suke cakap..'nak cakap org, cermin la diri sendiri'
itik berenang: cakap as mengumpat mmg la..
itik berenang: but then cakap as in tegur and tolong tu...mcm takbetul la dlm context ayat tu
itik berenang: hahaha
itik berenang: ape i merepek ni
Ilani Muis: haha
Ilani Muis: well
Ilani Muis: its your views
Ilani Muis: so
Ilani Muis: its very subjective
Ilani Muis: diff people
Ilani Muis: have diff outakes
Ilani Muis: you honestly this trying to be better get a little harder..Im trying but at times tersungkur and I start to reflect byk bende,which just make things even more complicated cause
Ilani Muis: you just tend to think alot
Ilani Muis: and see things from different angles
Ilani Muis: and it just occupise you soo much
Ilani Muis: you realized it wasting your time
Ilani Muis: then you just wann stop
Ilani Muis: but you end up beating around the bushes
itik berenang: wahahahaha
itik berenang: iye betol
Ilani Muis: which is why
Ilani Muis: i x tdo lg
Ilani Muis: You turn to Him
Ilani Muis: cause that is the best kan
Ilani Muis: but you end up wanting to talk to a person jugak
Ilani Muis: in hopes it would help
itik berenang: a'a betol
Ilani Muis: but then you also have the tendency to think why am i thinking too much bout my own problems when I could use the tyime in helping others
itik berenang: ahahaha..sometimes u just have to figure out things before moving on
itik berenang: i slalu camtu
itik berenang: hehe
Ilani Muis: yup,but sometimes you just couldnt seem to find the answer,and u end up immobile,just where you started
Ilani Muis: some people might say,this is also apart of the evil part of a human,like eveil whispering mcm nk lmahkan smgat u
Ilani Muis: so u be so busy thinking psl masalah sndr
Ilani Muis: when others around u masalah lg besar
So...Readers,what do you think?
P/S- Ya Jabbar...grant me strength...Please..Guide me. You're the onlyOne who knows whats inside my mind and my heart.So please,help me...
Pindah randah
5 years ago
4 comments:
Assalammualaikum wbt
Let us change that phrase:
"We can help ourselves if we help others"
Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda: "Sesama muslim itu bersaudara. Oleh kerana itu, jangan menganiaya dan jangan mendiamkan. Siapa saja yang memperhatikan kepentingan saudaranya, Allah akan memperhatikannya. Siapa saja yang melapangkan satu kesulitan sesama muslim, nescaya Allah akan melapangkan satu kesulitan dari beberapa kesulitannya pada hari kiamat. Siapa saja yang menutupi kejelekan seorang muslim, Allah akan menutupi kejelekannya pada hari kiamat."
[Hadis Riwayat al- Bukhari dan Muslim]
There are ways to 'help' others so that you will gain benefit. One of the ways can be found in the al-Quran in Surah al-'asr verse 1-3:
Demi Masa. Sesungguhnya manusia dalam kerugian. Kecuali orang-orang yang beriman dan mengerjakan kebajikan serta saling menasihati untuk kebenaran dan saling menasihati untuk kesabaran.
The key word:
Saling menasihati >
a. untuk kebenaran
b. untuk kesabaran
However, dalam kita nak membantu orang lain, kita mesti aware that we must take care of our own self and practice what we preach. Allah noted this clearly in the Quran. Surah as-saff verse 2-3.
When we help others, sebenarnya we are helping ourselves.
Just a pendapat.
wallahua'lam
segala puji hanya bagi Allah, Tuhan sekalian alam
Love,
a hamba Allah too
*hugs*
Suggested reading:
Tarbiyyah Dzatiyyah by Abdullah bin Abdul Aziz al-aidan
hi nani, salam.
i just came across ur blog n found this.
u know, it is a ques that i keep on asking, again and again...once, i complained n try to help my friends but u know, knowing myself, i stopped doing it for quite sometimes...because? one day, when i told something to my friend, she suddenly said ,' macam la kau tu dah baik sangat sampai nak tegur2 org, jg diri sendiri tu dulu'.
at that point, i know that i need to do something, to make myself to the betterment. but then, again, if i want to wait for me to be the most perfect person, most angelic one, how can i help my friend?
i dont know, i am confuse myself...so, for now, whatever thing that i believe i can help my friend, n whoever wants to accept it, i will just give a try. i am no perfect, far from it, but being a good friend is the most that i can do. n of course, i am open to any comment from anybody, so that i can be better.
being nice is something that not everybody can accept it. same goes to the changes.
missing u. xoxo, izzy.
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